Even Though The Weight Of The World
Moving Forward From "If Only" to "Even Though"...
Life is really hard.
That’s all, just wanted to share that.
I’m joking…there’s more.
There is so much to be aware of and get done. Parenting requires taking care of other humans and their needs and making plans and being a personal Uber for them. Self-employed/solopreneuring requires constantly working/building and figuring out the best use of time because we wear all the hats.
Oh, and I forgot to mention ADHD. ADHD is fantastic at taking all those things to get done and spinning them in our brain like a cement mixer with only the most urgent of things is allowed to surface.
Oh, and I forgot to mention that we live in a very odd time right now. Our futures are uncertain, and our empathy for those around us is taxed to the max. There are problems everywhere and they are all awful and deserve our attention.
It feels like having the weight of the world on my shoulders, and yet I’m supposed to plan my day or take actions. If only I could get my head around all this and find that magical perspective.
I’m all for taking the breaks, relaxing, meditating, getting in nature, breathwork…I’m into all of it. But then what? What happens after we calm the nervous system down?
The weight of the world is still on me, and it encases me like a giant bubble. I’m still a parent. I’m still a solopreneur. I still have ADHD and don’t know what to work on.
My belief is that the way to the other side of that is small, incremental forward motion.
Many of us want the weight of the world lifted so that we can have the motivation to take action. If only we could fix that. We want our perspective shifted. We want our mindset cleansed of doubt. We want some kind of inner epiphany that will carry us forward. If only we could do that then we’d surely have motivation or momentum or drive or the spark!
That would be cool. If that’s you, I would love for you to try something while you are working on your new perspective. While you are working on the “if only”, try adding an “even though” to the mix.
Take one of your quieter moments and ask yourself what your big goal/your big life-changing achievement is.
I like picking things that are 3-5 months out. Let’s save the “make a million dollars” for our big manifestation meditations. What would a real, achievable result be if you went from stagnation and stuck to actually working toward the thing? And is it something that would have a massively large impact on your life? Great! That’s something to go after. Need help deciding, check out my previous article on how to pick a thing.
Now is the fun part. While the weight of the world and life’s responsibilities are weighing us down, let’s carve out time each week to take action on that thing. Even though. Even though our kids, our jobs, our lives…even though all that, and even though in the moment our inner toddler is throwing a tantrumatic NOOOO, let’s move the needle forward on that one thing that we already decided was really important.
This, in my opinion, is how we get out of the “weight of the world” bubble. We move forward, even though. Even though it’s slower than we like, even though it feels inconsequential, even though it’s not urgent, even though we’d rather be (insert ANYTHING).
And because it is very difficult to move forward while seemingly inside a quicksand swamp, we need support. “Other people” works great for this. Leveraging the accountability and support of others is how trekking through the muck gets done. Other people encouraging us. Other people trekking through the muck alongside us. Other people believing in us. Ask your doctor if “other people” is right for you.
What is your big thing? Who are your other people that will help you move forward despite the weight of the world?
And if you don’t have other people, come join ADHDBB. We will be your other people.