Adults With ADHD Who Are Succeeding
Shout outs at ADHD Big Brother
Today has been a day of victories inside the community at ADHD Big Brother.
We have a daily accountability space where adults with ADHD make commitments and we gamify those commitments by using day streaks and badges. Bigger than the badges, though, is the human, peer-peer support that occurs in a space dedicated to getting shit done.
It works.
Proof is in the pudding, so here’s your pudding proof, get out your spoon:
Dave just earned his badge for hitting the one year mark. This is not one year of being a member of the community. No. This is one year, in a row, every day, of doing the thing he committed to doing. 365 days in a row!
Rachel just earned her badge for a second time of earning the badge for skull spaghetti mastery, which is 100 days, in a row, of doing what she committed to the community that she was doing.
We also have a card game that I invented called Goal Digger, where we earn pretend money for doing tasks that are in alignment with a chosen long term goal. The goal is to earn $1,000,000. And our member Gweilove just earned his $1,000,000 today! This game was started in May of 2024. It’s been a little over a year and he is our first (pretend money) millionaire.
Why am I sharing this?
Because I passionately believe in the power of community as a tool in helping us manage our adult ADHD. And I often find myself struggling with how to best communicate this.
Many of us are still hanging on to the normie notion that there is a system or a mindset that we can just activate and we will suddenly have the motivation and desire to do sucky things and we will be able to do it perfectly, all the time, once we get in alignment.
Mindset shifts are great. I believe in having them. But is the new mindset going to remind you to do the laundry? Just because you can add a “why” to knowing “how”? Are you suddenly going to have proper time management skills, are you suddenly going to be able to remember what’s important? How are you going to remember that new mindset once your auto—pilot kicks back on and you start behaving, thinking, doing the way you always did? Because remember, laundry sucks. It feels sucky. In the moment it will still be a loud “NOOO!”
And the remembering! Once you do all that transformational work to figure out your “why”, how are you going to remember it? If you are an adult with ADHD, you have a shitty working memory. That’s kind of our thing. Are you gonna write it down somewhere? How are you going to remember to look at it and remind yourself that this is your new mindset?
This is where I get out my bullhorn and scream about how daily accountability in a community can help you turn your brilliant new mindset into the actual action required to move your needle forward.
There are no magic bullets with ADHD, there’s no guarantee, there’s no cure. But oh my dear sweet lord the support and encouragement of a community that understands each other…it comes so close! I get ultimate joy in talking about this. It’s part of the reason why I offer a free call to anyone who has questions or wants to learn more about it. I’ll talk your face off about it. If that’s you, then the button to book the call is below.
Or, if you are thinking, “Holy shit, I think this could be the thing that works for me”, then I encourage you to jump in and take advantage of our 7 day money back thingy-situation. If it isn’t for you, you just have to let me know and I’ll give you your money back.